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Sunday, January 28, 2018

Sound or Signal? - BlogBite (24)





NOISE IS A FACT OF LIFE.

Some noise is pleasing to the ear, the mind and soul. Take the sound of birds chirping as an example. Or the sound of waves along the shore.


Some noise is disturbing. Loud construction work along a route we take every day can disrupt the expected sounds of the morning commute.

Some noise is downright disruptive. Sometimes, disruption and upheaval are the sequential results of noise. At other times, that disruption and upheaval are desired by the noise-maker - they are the goal.

Separation and disputes between spouses result of a variety of noises. 

In navigating the sometimes stormy waters of separation it is important to distinguish between
SOUND and SIGNAL.

ASK: 
-is the latest comment from my spouse (whether made directly, through email, by text, through a letter from a lawyer) only SOUND or is it a SIGNAL? 

-is the comment actually conveying a message to which I am well-advised to pay attention or is this comment simply noise, sound, deliberately designed to upset me?

Here are a couple of examples of comments made by one separating spouse to another:

"You are worthless. You always have been. All our friends agree. You had nothing when you came into the marriage and now you think you can take half. I will fight. You are worthless." - THIS IS SOUND only. This statement is designed to disturb and hurt the other spouse. File it in the folder you have marked "Sound only". Let is go.

"I am sick of your new wife. She will never be the children's mother. I am going to move with the children so I don't have to watch your new happy little family. I have a place lined up already but I won't tell you till it's done"  - THIS IS SIGNAL - and you need to pay attention. The comments ARE hurtful and designed to upset the father and his new wife but there is also important information in the comment - that mom plans on moving with the children and plans to tell father that she has moved only after she does so. Father should be taking further steps in connection with this information.

Separating spouses who are in conflict hurl "noisy" communications at each other almost daily, in a variety of forms. Learning to distinguish SOUND from SIGNAL can help deal with the onslaught and to maintain some clarity.

UPDATE - January, 2018

We are pleased to let you know that our Etsy shop is now OPEN!

Visit it here: SELFREP SUPPORT

In the shop, we make available to you Manuals (E-books) on various topics, to assist you in representing yourself before Ontario's family law Courts.

So far, we have Manuals on:

  • preparing an effective Financial Statement (both long-form and short-form); 
  • preparing an effective Affidavit; and
  • the basics of service and filing...

MORE MANUALS TO COME! 


Saturday, January 27, 2018

Why what you brought into the marriage matters - BlogBite (23)


Here is a hypothetical scenario:
  • You are married and now separated,
  • you are completing a Financial Statement,
  • you need to make a list of what you owned and what you owed on the date of marriage,
  • you are not quite sure why:
    • and you are too embarrassed to ask your lawyer for another explanation; or
    • you are representing yourself, you do not understand the reason but you have seen the Financial Statement form and you know you have to do that.
Ontario's Family Law Act provides a formula for dealing with assets and debts when married spouses separate. Some people refer to this as "property division" - in fact, the process based on the formula, is called "equalization".

In Ontario, in the calculation of their "net worth" for family law purposes, called Net Family Property, deceive credit for the value of their assets at marriage minus their debts. 

That is why you are preparing that list.....



UPDATE - January, 2018

We are pleased to let you know that our Etsy shop is now OPEN!

Visit it here: SELFREP SUPPORT

In the shop, we make available to you Manuals (E-books) on various topics, to assist you in representing yourself before Ontario's family law Courts.

So far, we have Manuals on:

  • preparing an effective Financial Statement (both long-form and short-form); 
  • preparing an effective Affidavit; and
  • the basics of service and filing...
MORE MANUALS TO COME! 


Confused about service and filing?

Are you representing yourself in a family court case in Ontario?

The experience CAN be overwhelming, we understand that.

If you are struggling with the concepts of the service and filing of court materials, you are not alone!

Many self-represented litigants (SLRs) find the court rules challenging, particularly because

how you serve and

when you serve

and then file

depends on a number of factors.

Our Etsy shop now makes available to you a 15-page E-book called:

How to Serve and File - the Basics

You can find it here:

ETSY SHOP

DO NOT FORGET that our firm offers unbundled legal services, in the event you have any questions!


Friday, January 26, 2018

SELFREP MANUALS

We are pleased to let you know that our Etsy shop is now OPEN!

Visit it here: SELFREP SUPPORT

In the shop, we make available to you Manuals (E-books) on various topics, to assist you in representing yourself before Ontario's family law Courts.

So far, we have Manuals on:

  • preparing an effective Financial Statement (both long-form and short-form); and
  • preparing an effective Affidavit and
  • the basics of service and filing.
MORE MANUALS TO COME! 


Thursday, January 11, 2018

"I need to change my child support payments" - BlogBite (22)

"I need to change my child support payments"

Folks, this is one of the most common phrases we hear in our family law practice.

People who want to change child support payments may present the following reasons (or a combination of them):

1. the payor may be making more money
2. the child is no longer in contact with the payor - ie: I am not seeing my child, why should I pay?
3. the child is over 18
4. the child is no longer in school full-time
5. the recipient of child support is refusing to provide the payor with information about the child's school attendance
6. the payor may be making less money...

and so on and so on.....this is not a complete list by any means.

Also, in the above list, not all reasons are actual reasons why child support would be changed by the Court.

When considering a change in child support, you need to address two basic questions:

1. do I have a legitimate reason to change child support?        and

2. how do I do it? - the procedure differs depending on whether the child support payments are being made based on a Court Order, based on a Separation Agreement or based on a verbal agreement.

As to a potential reason for the change, this is a legal issue and we suggest you obtain legal advice on it.

As to the procedure, we will soon be able to assist, even if you are self-represented. We are about to launch a series of Manuals and Kits, including to assist you in changing your child support payments.

STAY TUNED!!!!


UPDATE - January, 2018

We are pleased to let you know that our Etsy shop is now OPEN!

Visit it here: SELFREP SUPPORT

In the shop, we make available to you Manuals (E-books) on various topics, to assist you in representing yourself before Ontario's family law Courts.

So far, we have Manuals on:

  • preparing an effective Financial Statement (both long-form and short-form); 
  • preparing an effective Affidavit; and
  • the basics of service and filing...
MORE MANUALS TO COME! 


Saturday, January 6, 2018

Self-Rep Support - Kits and Manuals

Happy New Year!

For a wide variety of reasons about which we will not post today, more and more people are representing themselves before Ontario's family courts.

We have found that many such "self-reps" or "SRLs" (self-represented litigants), as they are known to judges and lawyers, need help. The legal machinery can be overwhelming.

This blog was born from the idea that people out there need a bit more information about family law in Ontario. Since we began posting here, we have noted the ever-increasing numbers of self-reps and considered some of the difficulties they face when they appear before Courts without a lawyer.

While our ability to help you with substantive issues (actual legal concepts, "the law") is limited, we will try and help at least with some of the procedure, paper-work and so on.

We plan on doing so with a series of manuals which will be available to you in our Etsy shop - to be opened by the middle of January, at the latest.

PLEASE WATCH FOR FURTHER UPDATES.

Topics for our manuals will include, for example:

1. How to complete an effective Financial Statement
2. How to complete an effective Application and Reply
3. How to complete an effective Answer
4. Pointers for filling out the Office of the Children's Lawyer questionnaire
5. Steps to take when changing child support.


Saturday, April 1, 2017

"I called the FRO and they are not helping me" - BlogBite (21)

We hear this statement quite frequently.

Here is a typical scenario:

* Parties' family law case ends with a final order for child support. They have one child. Dad pays child support for 9 years.
*Daughter turns 17 and moves in with her boyfriend. She also gets a full-time job.
*Dad has irregular contact with daughter, particularly as she gets older.
*Neither daughter nor Mom tell Dad she is now living with her boyfriend (and not Mom) and working full-time.
*Dad finds out a year later.
*Dad calls Mom and asks her to advise FRO that child support ended some time ago. Mom refuses.
*FRO continues to collect child support.
*Dad calls FRO - he is told (correctly) that they cannot help him in ending the child support payments. FRO's job is to enforce the last court order. They are going so.

What is Dad to do?

Dad needs to go to Court and ask for an Order changing the last Court Order and terminating his child support obligations. If Mom is not agreeing to advise the FRO of the change and Dad is successful in terminating the support payments, he may be entitled to costs (Mom may have to pay his costs for having to go to Court on this issue).

We will soon have a KIT available on our website for situations exactly like this one - Stay Tuned!

UPDATE - January, 2018

We are pleased to let you know that our Etsy shop is now OPEN!

Visit it here: SELFREP SUPPORT

In the shop, we make available to you Manuals (E-books) on various topics, to assist you in representing yourself before Ontario's family law Courts.

So far, we have Manuals on preparing an effective:

  • Financial Statement (both long-form and short-form); and
  • Affidavit.
MORE MANUALS TO COME! 

Child Support when young person attends a co-op program or undertakes apprenticeship - BlogBite (20)

More and more young adults ("children" over the age of 18) attend co-op programs which include periods of both study and work, or undertake apprenticeship programs.

We receive a lot of questions on how such programs impact of child support. Here are some key points on this issue:

1. There are circumstances in which a young person over the age of 18 will continue to be eligible for child support. We have posted on this issue before - we invite you to search for earlier discussions.

2. Generally speaking, a young person who continues with their education past the age of 18 will continue to be eligible for support. That being said, the facts of each specific case need to be considered to determine whether child support continues to be owing.

3. A young person over 18 does not automatically become disentitled to child support just because he or she is in a program of study which involves a work component or even some form of income.

4. When this happens, the focus should be on the a) form of child support payable and b) amount of child support payable. If the student receives income in connection with the work component of the program of study a) he/she may be expected to contribute at least a portion of the income to their own costs and b) the amount of financial assistance that young person will receive from his or her parents may be affected.

Again, each case is unique - inform yourself and get legal advice.

UPDATE - January, 2018

We are pleased to let you know that our Etsy shop is now OPEN!

Visit it here: SELFREP SUPPORT

In the shop, we make available to you Manuals (E-books) on various topics, to assist you in representing yourself before Ontario's family law Courts.

So far, we have Manuals on preparing an effective:

  • Financial Statement (both long-form and short-form); and
  • Affidavit.
MORE MANUALS TO COME! 



A serene Ontario vista - Photo by AJ


Friday, March 31, 2017

SELF-REP HELP KITS

ANNOUNCEMENT: we are working on a series of HELP KITS for self-represented litigants.

So far, we are considering KITS on the following topics (and they will include Forms and instructions):

1. How to complete an effective Financial Statement

2. Ending or changing child support by Motion to Change

3. Navigating Case Management in Ontario

4. Understanding pleadings (Application, Answer and Reply)

and others!

STAY TUNED!

UPDATE - January, 2018

We are pleased to let you know that our Etsy shop is now OPEN!

Visit it here: SELFREP SUPPORT

In the shop, we make available to you Manuals (E-books) on various topics, to assist you in representing yourself before Ontario's family law Courts.

So far, we have Manuals on preparing an effective:

  • Financial Statement (both long-form and short-form); and
  • Affidavit.
MORE MANUALS TO COME! 

Thursday, March 30, 2017

The child support "grid"...tables under the Child Support Guidelines - Ontario


once heard radio talk show host refer to a "child support grid"We have heard this phrase used in other contexts as wellWhat does it mean?

The "grid", otherwise known as a "table", is a tool which assists us in calculating the first of the two components of child support, commonly known as the "table amount".

Child support in Canada is generally calculated using both federal and provincial legislation (depending on whether the parents of the child were married or not) called the Child Support GuidelinesThis legislation includes series of tables which set out monthly amounts payable by the parent with whom the child or children in question do not live primarily, in different Provinces and based on different income levels

These tables are sometimes referred to as "gridsbecause they actually look like gridsOn the left hand side of each tablethere is a column with incremental income amounts and to the right are corresponding table child 
support amounts, depending on the number of children involved.

There is separate table for each Province because the cost of raising children varies from location to location

The child support amounts set out in the grid represent the monthly amount to be paid by the non-residential parent to the primary residential parent, on monthly and repeating basis - the tables do not provide for an automatic terminating event or date - that is a question which depends on the facts of each particular case.


The amounts provided for in the tables are "net" to the recipient parentThis means that no tax is paid by that parent on the table amount received. Correspondinglythe payor parent does not have an opportunity to deduct these amounts for tax purposes (this is different than the tax treatment of periodic spousal support).


UPDATE - January, 2018

We are pleased to let you know that our Etsy shop is now OPEN!

Visit it here: SELFREP SUPPORT

In the shop, we make available to you Manuals (E-books) on various topics, to assist you in representing yourself before Ontario's family law Courts.

So far, we have Manuals on preparing an effective:

  • Financial Statement (both long-form and short-form); and
  • Affidavit.

MORE MANUALS TO COME! 

Monday, March 27, 2017

"How do I get a divorce?" - Ontario - BlogBite (19)

As you can imagine, we hear this question A LOT!

In Canada, only a Judge can grant a divorce. For this reason, the Court must be notified if either party wants a divorce, even if all of the other issues are settled, by way of Separation Agreement, for example.

How does the Court "get notified"? One of the parties needs to commence a court proceeding, by Application (a joint Application is also an option). In the Application, the spouse commencing the court case would ask for a divorce BUT may also ask for other relief, like child support, custody and other claims.

When to ask for a divorce and whether to ask the Court for just a divorce or a divorce with other claims is a very important, strategic decision for which you likely need legal advice.

In lay terms, a "divorce" is what happens when two married spouses separate but in strict legal terms, a divorce is only the order of the court which ends a marriage and as a result of which the spouses are no longer spouses and are divorced.

It is important to realize that the granting of a divorce DOES NOT deal with any of the other issues in the case between separated spouses.

SO: if your case involves issues like custody, access, child support, spousal support and property division, to mention just a few, then your court case must name all those IN ADDITION to a divorce and ask the Court to deal with those issues as well.

These are complex, technical issues Get legal advice. We offer unbundled services to give you advice on limited, specific issues as well. 

Thursday, March 23, 2017

What is a matrimonial home - Ontario? - BlogBite (18)

In simplest terms, in Ontario and for family law purposes, a matrimonial home is the place where married spouses live together at the time of separation.

Here is more information you may find interesting/relevant:

1. A matrimonial home does not have to be owned by both spouses or even one of them. It can be a rental unit, for example, or a property owned by a corporation.

2. A family can have more than one matrimonial home. For example, a family cottage can, in the right circumstances, be the second matrimonial home.

3. The Family Law Act gives spouses special "possessory rights" in connection with a matrimonial home, no matter who actually owns the property.  A spouse cannot be deprived of such rights without consent or court order.

4. The value of matrimonial homes is divided between the parties on separation in a unique way, based on the provisions of the Family Law Act. Homes which are brought into the marriage and which are the matrimonial home at separation are also treated in a very specific way under this legislation (and unlike the division of other assets). Legal advice is crucial in this area.

5. Remember: The phrase "matrimonial home" applies only to situations where the spouses are married to each other (ie: are not common-law spouses).

UPDATE - January, 2018

We are pleased to let you know that our Etsy shop is now OPEN!

Visit it here: SELFREP SUPPORT

In the shop, we make available to you Manuals (E-books) on various topics, to assist you in representing yourself before Ontario's family law Courts.

So far, we have Manuals on preparing an effective:

  • Financial Statement (both long-form and short-form); and
  • Affidavit.
MORE MANUALS TO COME! 




Monday, August 15, 2016

Child Support - who gets it and why?

A simple, straightforward-sounding question, right?

...and yet, so many people misunderstand the concept, who is entitled to receive child support and why. Here is some basic information:

1. Child support is the right of the child (or children, depending on your case). This means that parents have limited rights to make "deals" about child support;

2. Generally speaking, child support is paid to the parent who has care of a child on a day-to-day basis, either primarily or by sharing that responsibility with the other parent; *

3. Child support is meant to fund a child's expenses - both day-to-day expenses but also special expenses like sports and other extra-curricular activities;

4. When the child in question is a minor, child support is paid to the parent who incurs expenses for the child (and not to the child directly - we get a lot of questions about this point);

5. In Canada, there are two elements to child support:

a. the table amount - the recurring monthly amount which is calculated based on the non-primary-residential parent's income; and

b. an additional payment (paid either monthly or at some other frequency) which is the non-primary-residential parent's contribution to special or extraordinary expenses like extracurricular activities and schooling/daycare;

6. Child Support does not necessarily end when a child turns 18. It continues for a reasonable period of time while the child (young person) remains financially dependant on his or her parents, either for medical reasons or because of ongoing school attendance.

These are the bare basics - there is a lot more to child support and you should get advice on the specific circumstances of your case.

*special considerations apply when two parents have one child each living with them and also when a child spends at least 40% of the time with the non-residential parent.


UPDATE - January, 2018

We are pleased to let you know that our Etsy shop is now OPEN!

Visit it here: SELFREP SUPPORT

In the shop, we make available to you Manuals (E-books) on various topics, to assist you in representing yourself before Ontario's family law Courts.

So far, we have Manuals on preparing an effective:

  • Financial Statement (both long-form and short-form); and
  • Affidavit.
MORE MANUALS TO COME! 

Wednesday, March 30, 2016

"How do I know my 16-year-old is still in school?" - BlogBite

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Question: I am still paying child support for my 16 year old son. Someone just told me he is not in school any more and now working full-time. Am I entitled to know what he is doing? How do I find out?

Answer: Yes, you are entitled to confirmation that your son is still attending school and, therefore, remains eligible for child support. You can request the information from the other parent and it should be provided. Or, you can ask the other parent to authorize the school to provide the information directly to you.

UPDATE - January, 2018

We are pleased to let you know that our Etsy shop is now OPEN!

Visit it here: SELFREP SUPPORT

In the shop, we make available to you Manuals (E-books) on various topics, to assist you in representing yourself before Ontario's family law Courts.

So far, we have Manuals on preparing an effective:

  • Financial Statement (both long-form and short-form); and
  • Affidavit.
MORE MANUALS TO COME! 

Saturday, March 12, 2016

"When do my child support payments end" (4) - BlogBite

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Here is a hypothetical about which we receive a lot of questions:

Question: My son turned 18 nine months ago. I stopped making child support payments to my ex-wife based on our court order a month later. I just got a letter from the Family Responsibility Office that I have to pay up what I owe for the last 8 months and continue to pay on a monthly basis. But he is 18!!! His mother is also sending me emails that I "do not get it" and have to continue paying. Do I have to?

Answer: Contrary to public belief, child support does not end automatically when a child turns 18. Not in Canada.

In order to give a definitive answer to the hypothetical, we would need more facts.

The questions we would ask include the following:

1. Is your son still attending school?

2. If so, what kind of program is he attending?

3. If not, does he have short-term plans to return to school, and if so, to what program?

4. Does your son have any physical or mental disabilities, academic challenges?

5. If he is not attending school and has no plans to return to school soon, is he working? Full-time? Part-time?

6. Is your son living with your ex-wife?

Answers to all those questions impact on whether or not you have to continue to pay child support.

And remember, FRO do not make the decision on whether you have to continue to pay - if necessary, the Court does - they only enforce the last court order.



Friday, March 11, 2016

"When do my child support payments end"(3) - BlogBite

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Child support and when it ends is a topic on which we received the MOST questions.

For this reason, we have decided to include some simple question and answer hypotheticals in our BlogBites.

Question: My daughter really wants to go to college. She just finished high school but the program to which she wants to apply tells her she needs to get more specific high school credits before she can submit her application. She is going to take the credits, while living with her mother, but she can only take them on a part-time basis. It will take her 3 semesters, part-time, to get them. She said she will work part-time as well, while she is attending school part-time. Do I still have to pay child support?

Answer: In our view, YES. Your daughter has a plan. She plans to attend college and she has looked into how to apply. The further courses she is taking will permit her to apply to a program of her choice. In our view, the court will not be concerned about the fact that she is taking them on a part-time basis only, particularly since she is also planning on working. In other works, she is not idle - she is applying herself. She should save a portion of her earnings during this time and contribute them to the cost of her college education, particularly if you and her mother's income brackets are not high.

Remember, no two cases are alike. Apply any hypotheticals to your case with care!

UPDATE - January, 2018

We are pleased to let you know that our Etsy shop is now OPEN!

Visit it here: SELFREP SUPPORT

In the shop, we make available to you Manuals (E-books) on various topics, to assist you in representing yourself before Ontario's family law Courts.

So far, we have Manuals on preparing an effective:

  • Financial Statement (both long-form and short-form); and
  • Affidavit.
MORE MANUALS TO COME! 

Wednesday, March 9, 2016

"Your Honour, I don't have a lawyer" - Unbundled services and other resources

The title - an increasingly common phrase heard in Ontario's family courts.

Between 2014 and 2015, more than 50% of family law litigants were unrepresented.

There are many reasons for this state of affairs - they are not the subject of this post.

Since 2011 or so, active steps have been taken, by various branches of the government and the legal system in general, to address the growing tide of self-represented parties before the Court.

What we want to draw to your attention in this post, if you are a self-rep, are two things:

1. take a look at this website, which has A LOT of very useful information for self-reps. It's a product of an ongoing project headed by the University of Windsor Law School (my alma mater), studying the needs of self-reps and finding ways to assist them - representingyourselfcanada website

2. one option you have, while navigating through the court system on your own, is to get some limited help from a lawyer - these are called "unbundled services" - this means that you do not retain a lawyer for the whole case but rather, for specific tasks only. For example, a lawyer could help you prepare materials for a specific hearing or review an offer than has been made by the other side. You would be entering into a Limited Retainer with that lawyer, based on a set of Rules provided to the legal profession by the Law Society of Upper Canada.

We do provide unbundled services. Many other lawyers do as well. Find the lawyer who is right for you - in your area.

Representing yourself can be tough and overwhelming and we realize that sometimes, you simply have no other choice. Consider unbundled services, though - they may assist you in dealing with some particularly challenging areas in your case.

UPDATE - January, 2018

We are pleased to let you know that our Etsy shop is now OPEN!

Visit it here: SELFREP SUPPORT

In the shop, we make available to you Manuals (E-books) on various topics, to assist you in representing yourself before Ontario's family law Courts.

So far, we have Manuals on preparing an effective:

  • Financial Statement (both long-form and short-form); and
  • Affidavit.
MORE MANUALS TO COME! 

Wednesday, March 2, 2016

"Can I deduct legal fees at tax season?" - BlogBite

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Question: Can I deduct my family law legal fees on my tax return?

Answer: you can, but only in specific circumstances. If you are either the recipient of or are pursuing entitlement to either child or spousal support, you have a shot at deducting for tax purposes legal fees related to establishing, quantifying, varying or enforcing those support payments. At tax season and on request, your family law lawyer will give you a letter confirming the total amount you paid in connection with these steps in the immediately preceding calendar year. You will have to submit that letter with your tax return.

Have more questions? call us....(905) 898-8500.

Saturday, February 27, 2016

Limited Scope Retainers and Unbundled Services - BlogBite

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Question: What is a Limited Scope Retainer? I have heard of "unbundled" legal services, what does that phrase mean?

Answer: Both of these terms relate to a scenario where a person requiring legal services or advice hires a lawyer to deal with only a part of their case or a specific issue in the case, as opposed to dealing with the entire case as part of a classic retainer. Limited Scope Retainers are becoming increasingly common. With growing frequency, individuals who cannot afford legal representation for their whole case engage a lawyer to assist them with specific parts of the case, specific issues or specific questions which arise as they represent themselves.

We do provide unbundled services - if you have any more questions, call us! (905) 898-8500.

Thursday, February 18, 2016

"I want the Judge to speak to my child" - BlogBite

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Question: "My son, who is 6, has told me over and over again that he wants to live with me and not his mother. I want him to tell the Judge that. Judges speak to children to find out what they want, correct?"

Answer: When a Judge in Ontario considers a child-related issue (but not child support), he/she is expected by the legislation to take into account the views a child expresses as to the situation. It is important to realize that this is only one of the many factors a Judge is to take into account, and is not determinative of (does not decide) the issue.

That being said, those expressed views are to be considered having regard to the child's age, maturity, and ability to express themselves clearly and consistently. Further, the Judge must determine whether the views expressed, if any, are really those of the child and not of either of the parents, through the child.  If there is any general rule to be drawn from the legislation and related case law, it is that the younger the child, the less likely the Court is to take into consideration the child's views and preferences.

Judges rarely speak to children directly. That happens only in rare and unique circumstances. Children's voices come before the Court in a variety of other ways, which will be the subject of another post. Stay tuned.

Have more questions? Call us!

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